Introduction to gay Tantra

Introduction to gay Tantra

Introduction to gay Tantra

Introduction to gay Tantra is some very ended information. Especially for men who wish to explore this new kind of bodywork!

Gay Tantra massage is the bodywork specifically developed for male to male interaction. I am frequently asked to explain what it is all about. So here it goes!

Introduction to gay Tantra

Tantra massage is universal. It is an amazing experience. Beyond that, it is recommended for all human beings —over 21 of age, logically!

Because sensuality is a relevant part of life for most of the people. No matter if male, female or transgender. Age doesn’t matter either. Also no matter what culture, religion, geographic location or income.

In other words, “gay Tantra” and “straight Tantra” are basically the same. Of course you you should be always free to choose who is your partner!

Tantra massage is about an intimate way to share time and sensuality. As you guess, intimate skin to skin communication is the context.

So Tantra massage is known for its spiritual approach to our sensual and sexual dimension. No rush, no violence, no stress nor anxiety.

Control is another keyword for Tantra though. If you agree with your significant half to enjoy a Tantra session you need to share the goal of control.

Tantra and ambience

Introduction to gay Tantra also needs a physical space to make the session possible.

We need to set up a nice room. Have also in mind you are going to share a long session. Because this is part of the deal!

  • Use candles
  • Burn sandal sticks to scent the room
  • Dim the lights
  • Play some soft and relaxing music
  • Lock the door!
  • Make sure there will be no interruption

Then concentrate on your partner! Well, it’s best expressed as:

Concentrate on each other“.

What is going to happen

It is almost sure you will end up making love. Though don’t start with this idea in mind. Take is as a present, not as a goal.

  • Sit facing each other
  • Value this present moment
  • Look inside your partners eyes
  • Breathe together
  • Control and limit your breathing
  • Find consciousness
  • Enjoy awareness of this sexy moment!

Next steps

You will need from 5 to 15 minutes to calm down and start to dive into this present moment. Don’t move. You are free and welcomed to smile, but try not to laugh. Laughing could break the moment and turn it into something superficial. Smiling though is a best way to express happiness. While at this point.

  • Touch each other starting by the face
  • Then softly caress his ears
  • Touch his head and his hair
  • Softly touch his chest
  • Use your fingertips
  • See the areas of his body you are touching
  • Be conscious
  • Block the concept of time out of your present moment

Sexual excitement

If you feel attracted to him you desire him. You desire his body and his soul. Because this is not just a superficial moment.

Maybe this is not a fuck-buddies experiment. Though it is legitimate if it is the case, absolutely!

Sexual excitement comes naturally. Everybody has his own pace. Some men get hard sooner than others. Respect your own pace and his.

  • Touch the inner side of his legs
  • Caress his balls with your finger tips
  • Touch his penis softly
  • Avoid masturbation at this point
  • Change your positions according to what you both feel
  • Move slowly
  • Act predictively, in a way he can adapt to your next position
  • Explore positions
  • Rub the body parts you feel most excited to his counterparts
  • Chest on chest contact
  • Face to face
  • Dick on dick
  • Make it last

Pace is also relevant to achieve the longest enjoyment.


This is a description of how a tantric session can take place. of course. Of course each and every session has a very different outcome.

These are some guidelines I sue for my tantric massage for gay men. Though each session is absolutely different. Because there are no two equal gay men in the world!

We will come back and follow this point in a next post soon. There’s much more to this introduction to gay Tantra, so stay tuned!

In the meantime you are welcomed to explore more abut gay massage here:

I also have a Spanish site where I explain Tantra in more detail:

See you soon in Barcelona!

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